Increasing your Emotional Intelligence skills offers significant benefits in three categories: decision-making, relationships, and health. These categories embrace virtually every behavior, every action and reaction, every situation you may encounter. They apply to your business and professional interactions as well as your family relationships, from the broad sweep of major, multi-million dollar corporations to the day-to-day small incidents that influence your life.Decision MakingBy becoming aware of what you are feeling in the moment you have information you can use to make a decision about what to say or do now. Developing emotional self-regulation skills allows you to quickly transform negative, draining emotions into more positive, productive ones, enabling you to think and act more rationally at any time. Your moment-to-moment decision-making is enhanced significantly. You can use these skills to keep yourself from reacting, allowing you to respond with more thoughtfulness and thoroughness. Your effectiveness, your confidence and your motivation are all positively impacted when you are in control of your emotions.RelationshipsEmotional Intelligence skills will not only empower you personally, they will have a positive impact on your relationships with others as well. For example, instead of blowing up when your project manager announces a deadline without consulting you, managing your emotional reactiveness enables you to remain calm, ask good questions, perhaps even influence the deadline - all the while preserving your good working relationship with your manager. Had you reacted negatively, the breakdown in communication would have created barriers to working effectively. You would have essentially lost ground in your relationship and would need to exert a great deal of effort and time to repair the damage. When relationships are maintained and enhanced, all parties benefit.On the home front, when your child comes home with a poor test score or lower grade than you think he can earn, rather than putting him on the hot seat, you can show him you care and are concerned about him, and still maintain a firm but understanding approach to the situation. Think of the positive effect this is likely to have on your relationships with your children.When participants in my programs have employed simple EI techniques, they have been astounded by their children’s responses. For example an SVP of HR for a large organization discovered his son had charged a tank of gas on his credit card. His immediate reaction was to grab a baseball bat to get his son’s attention. Instead, he used a simple, quick emotional management technique and asked himself, “What’s a better way to handle this situation?As a result, he and his son discussed the situation calmly (no bat was involved). For punishment, his son was not allowed to drive his own truck for a week. When the son asked, “How am I going to get to work?” Dad’s reply was, “That’s your problem.” The next morning the son called his dad at work and thanked him for having a conversation instead of a yelling match.This story demonstrates how managing emotions can have a significant impact. Not only was the conversation quite different than what normally or typically would have occurred, but the impact on the relationship was dramatically better in the short run and long run. And the dad was being a much better role model for his son.HealthThe third area affected by developing your Emotional Intelligence skills, but certainly not the least, is your health. Negative emotions fuel higher cortisol levels, often called “the stress hormone.” Over time, excessive levels of cortisol can cause sleeplessness, loss of bone mass and osteoporosis, allergies, asthma, acid reflux, ulcers, low sperm count, redistribution of fat to the waist and hips, and fat buildup in the arteries, which can lead to heart disease and numerous other diseases (McCraty, Borrios-Choplin et al. “The Impact of a New Emotional Self-Management Program on Stress, Emotions, Heart Rate Variability, DHEA and Cortisol” Integrative Physiological and Behavioral Science 33(2):151-70, 1998). Mismanaged emotions, correlated with dysrhythmias in our Autonomic Nervous System, are associated with many diseases including asthma, chronic fatigue, depression, hypoglycemia, hypertension and many more. Learning to transform from negative emotions into positive productive ones throughout the day or night over a sustained period of time has been shown to have a positive impact on many health-related problems. The most frequently mentioned by participants in my programs is a significant reduction or elimination of sleeplessness, often in one or two weeks.The good news is that developing Emotional Intelligence skills is not hard. People who have applied simple, proven techniques consistently have realized the benefits in a very short period of time. They have reported improvements in all of the categories - decision-making, relationships and health.—Tailoring the art and science of Emotional Intelligence (EI) to your needs, Byron Stock focuses on results, helping individuals and organizations enhance EI skills, leadership competencies and core values. Visit www.ByronStock.com to learn about his practical, user-friendly techniques to enhance Emotional Intelligence skills.
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